A colleague recently posed an interesting question as a topic for a blog post: What happens when fear wins? My answer: if the fearful part of you “wins” and prevents you from doing something, give that part of you a trophy. And then pay attention to the fearful part because that part is probably really…
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Radical Acceptance, Radical Change
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How Your Communication Style Affects Others
Sometimes it is helpful to understand the impact your communication style has on other people. While every interaction is different, there are some common reactions people have to different communication styles. If you are aggressive, other people may react to you with fear or anxiety. They may be timid around you because they don’t want…
Action is Better Than Tea
After there is a mass shooting or other horrifying event, I sometimes see articles written by therapists on how to cope. They talk about self-care, reducing exposure to media and getting support. You know, drink herbal tea, eat right, do some yoga, go to therapy. Things like that. While I am very much in favor…
Seven Ways to Use Your Smartphone to Improve Your Mental Health
Nobody taught me anything about using smartphones when I was in graduate school in the late ’90s. But I’ve counseled a lot of clients since then and found a lot of ways smartphones can be used to support mental health. Here are my top seven. Give yourself supportive messages when you need them. If you…
A Tip for Reducing Anxiety
I recently wrote about how I coped with anxiety when on an airplane trip. On the flight home, I tried another coping strategy that might be helpful for you. I know that airplanes and fear are linked in my brain so when I am on a plane I get scared. There are lots of ways…
How A Therapist Deals With Anxiety
Here I am, on an airplane, dealing with anxiety. I do not like airplane travel. I get scared that the plane will crash. But since I’m on a plane anyhow, I thought this would be a good opportunity to write about how I deal with anxiety. When I feel anxious I want to avoid whatever…