Lots of people seem to worry about whether a therapist will see something about them as pathological. In my opinion as a psychotherapist, there is nothing inherently problematic about being:
- Gay
- Lesbian
- Bisexual
- Transgender
- Genderqueer
- Asexual
- Polyamorous
- Non-monogamous
- Into kink/BDSM
- Religious
- Not religious
- Fat
Of course, there is nothing problematic about lots of things, but those are the ones people seem to be most worried about. So, my recommendations are:
- Love yourself, don’t hate yourself.
- Know that you are OK the way you are; there is nothing essentially wrong with you.
- Be truthful with your partner(s). Get some help if things get difficult.
- Make sure your sexual behavior is consensual and safe.
- If one of your relationships is not safe, respectful and loving, get some support.
- Take care of your body and accept it as it is.
- Allow your religious beliefs or your ideas about the world to support you.
- Respect where you are in your own process.
Therapy can help. But really try to find a therapist who accepts you as you are.